Barking Up the Wrong Tree
Rating: 9/10Author:Eric Barker Read More on Amazon
Super insightful book that debunks countless of myths and questions you've had when it comes to what makes up a successful person. Topics range from work-life balance, networking, learning when to quit and a lot more. Barker is also an incredibly talented writer so reading the book becomes fun rather than a chore. If you like books like such as Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell your gonna love this.
Barking Up the Wrong Tree Summary
Chapter 1: Do Nice Guys Finish Last?
- the unfair advantage
- 700 hundred american millionaires: average gpa 2.9
- Following the rules doesnt create success, it just elimates the extremes both good and bad.
- No bad gene vs good gene instead "differential susceptibility hypothesis"
- "The same genes that lead to bad stuff can actually lead to great stuff in a different situation.
- Context makes the difference (Tipping point)
- To be great we must be different. Being the best version of you. Haon
- Know Thyself
- Givers are at the top of succesful people, but there also at the bottom.
Chapter 2: Do Quitters Never Win? and Winners Never Quit?
- Dr.Q - immigrant from mexico who was dirt poor and became the best brain surgeon in the world and also couldn't even speak a lick of English.
- Navy seals - positive self talk
- Optimists are more lucky because they see opportunity where others may not have seen it.
- Grit = shifting view from pessimissim to optimism
- Stories we tell ourselves
- Page 76 quote "Studies show that when we relate to characters in fictional stories we are more likely to overcome obstacles to achieve our goals.
- Suicides = lives werent matching with their story in their head.
- Resume values - things that bring external sucess, like money and power.
- Eulogy values are about character: Am I kind, trustworthy, or courageous?
- Fate is something we can't avoid, destiny is something we must bring to fruition.
- Willpower gets depleted if its a struggle, games change it to something else. If you are immune to boredom, there is nothing you cannot acoomplish. David Foster Wallace
- Feelings of control kill stress.
- Strategic quitting
- Matt Polly at 19 moved to china to do kung fu, after his life became a success became a writer.
- Lucky people maximize opportunity
- Kindargeteners winning competition against engineers because they tried more. Fail fast and fail cheap.
Ch 4 It's not what you know, it's who you know
- CEO's, top execs are extroverts
- Extroversion leads to success, promotion, MBA's
- Paul Erdos genius mathematician who was weird, who produced more papers then anyone else, who traveled around the world doing math with others.
- Extroverts are luckier
- "It's the quiet ones, you have to watch" Issac Newton ex
- Extraversion was negatively related to individual profciency..
- Top performers in sports, music, chess are introverts
- Being an introvert is more predictive of good grades then IQ
- Top sales people are ambieverts
- Depending on the situation flip the switch of personality to become succesful
- Healthy rivalry between MIT and Harvard created a radar that won the war
- Networking = focus on becoming a friend, what challenges are they facing, ask them for advice, compliment them (better than sex or money) , Whom do you know that I should meet (superconnectors)
- Judd Apatow, comedian with the mamba mentality, asked comedians to get interviewed for radio station for a hs (comedians werent that popular back then)
- Need a Mentor, pg 151 entrepreneurs with mentors raise seven times as much money and their business experience three and a half times growth. - Smartcuts
- Get noticed, get success and mentor will come, get multiple mentors
- Hostage negotiators, empathy,Walter greene thanking the 44 most influential people in his life.
Ch 5 Believe in Yourself...Sometimes
- Sometimes the mere appearance of confidence can be the difference between winning and losing.
- Martial arts master who fooled himself thinking he can no touch knock people out
- Confidence is powerful but its also dangerous
- Letter I in share holder letter = downfall
- Tomas Premuaiz said "Low self-confidence may turn you into a pessimist, but when pessimism teams-up with ambition it ofren produces outstanding performace.
- Pessimistic entrepreneurs are more succesful, prob less happy tho
- Throw out self confidence instead use self-compassion,
- Norton the self proclaimed emperor
- Increasing confidence = focus on the small wins, and your skill improvement = get better goals
- Self compassion correlated with being wise
Ch 6 Work, Work, Work.. or Balance?
- Ted Williams, mamba mentality, "I only lived for my next time at bat", virgin until his second year in the major leagues, it wasnt just how that he spend a lot of hours practicing, he was a perfectionist during the hours. Studied the game.
- Price law 10 people out of 100 pros will make up 50% of the awards
- Ambition alone is predictive of success, and motivation predicts career success better than intelligence, ability and salary.
- Losing a job can affect happiness forever.
- Einstein's horrible family life
- Teamate asked Ted why he was so mad all the time. He responded: "You know why? I've got to be good every day. You don't have to be."
- This guy got mad after he hit a .home run. Mozart was composing while his wife was giving birth.
- Libri aut liberi = "if your very serious about creating things, you sacrafice family"
- burnout occurs when were not passionate about the job were in, thats why passionate people might pass out from exhaustion but not burn out
- Burnout is the opposite of grit (pessimism)
- Sakubara defeated the Gracie family, playful attitude linked toward better grades.
- Energy not time is the fundamental currency of high performance
- Satisficing > Maximizing in terms of happiness
- What do I want? If you don't decide the world will decide for you
- Gengis Khan didnt react all the time to his surroundings , he always had a plan
- Extra profit of surveyed entrepreneurs were planned schedule activities with employees